How would the Batfamily comfort someone who’s sad? (I wanna know if it’s anything like what other write because you seem to know everything)

nightween:

Aw, thanks. I like to act like I know everything, so I’m glad it’s working

Dick: Dick is a listener. He’s empathetic, so he’s good at intuitively understanding what other people are going through. He probably lives his life by imagining himself in other people’s shoes. “If I was in this situation, how would I want to be treated?” Dick is a very observant guy and also a social guy, so when he notices that someone is off, he’s willing to approach them and lend an ear. Dick values privacy and independence, so he won’t pressure people to talk about their problems. He just wants to offer himself to friends so they know it’s an option and then he’ll back off to give them space if they ask for it.

If someone opens up to Dick, he’ll give his objective advice for the situation whether they necessarily want to hear it or not. Dick prides himself on being authentic and honest (so long as his secret identity doesn’t get in the way), so he’ll be upfront and to the point if he thinks it would solve their problem. Dick’s advice is generally accurate since he’s good with people and good at strategizing outcomes. If it’s not a situation that can be solved (like a loved one dying), then Dick will let the person talk, put a hand on their shoulder, offer a hug, etc, depending on their needs. (For example, Bruce and Damian are not people who would want hugs, but someone like Donna might be okay with Dick giving her a long five minute hug while he says comforting things.) I think Dick is very observant and generally knows what different people need, so his method of comforting will change from person to person.

Jason: I think Jason is a man of actions more than words. He’d be kind of uncomfortable with someone pouring their feelings out to him because he wouldn’t know what to say or how to comfort them. He’d be sensitive about wanting to help, but he’d be out of his own comfort zone when it comes to physically or verbally affirming someone. Instead, Jason would strive to help by taking the situation into his own hands. If a poor neighbor mentions that they don’t have enough money to get their kids anything for Christmas and are lamenting about how they’re going to learn Santa isn’t real, I feel like it would stay on Jason’s mind for the next couple days until he buys gifts himself and then leaves them for his neighbor anonymously. (Jason doesn’t seem like the type to like taking credit for things, because then the neighbor would get mushy and keep expressing their gratitude to him, and he doesn’t want to deal with that either.) If a little girl tells Jason that some bad man killed her father, then Jason might take it upon himself to extract revenge for her. Basically, I see Jason as someone who is very empathetic but not good at comforting people directly and being awkward about accepting someone’s gratitude. If Jason is comforting someone over a death, I think he’d be the type to awkwardly pat them on the back because he’s not sure what to do or say. (Meanwhile, he’s already thinking of ways to go after the person responsible.)

Tim: Tim is more logically orientated, so I don’t think he’s quite as good at being sensitive about helping someone compared to Dick. If someone tells Tim their problem, Tim would be upfront about his advice on how to solve it while Dick might be better about wording the same thing in a better way. Tim seems like someone who would have the best intentions in regards to helping someone but might come across the wrong way because he went behind their back to solve it. (Like how Tim went behind Kon’s back with the DNA test. In his eyes, he’s doing a good thing, but it didn’t bode well to Kon because he felt like his privacy was being invaded.) Basically, Tim cares and will strive to solve it, but he’s not always aware of when he’s crossing boundaries to do so. Since Tim is a master hacker and has all these abilities, it probably bothers him to not do something when he knows he can, even if the person would prefer him staying out of their personal affairs. I feel like this sort of thing wouldn’t happen too often, just in special circumstances. Otherwise, Tim would sit with someone, keep his arm around them, listen, etc.

Steph: Steph is very approachable and will engage herself in another person’s problem easily. She’s the type of person to say, “He did what? No way! I’d kick his ass!” which is great, because it shows that she’s actively listening and investing herself in someone else’s life. She’s not really the type to go out and try to solve someone’s problem behind their back, but she is the type to know what someone wants to hear and then say it. If someone is having relationship problems, she’ll go, “I can’t believe she would do that!!” while Dick or Tim might be the ones to objectively point out, “Well, maybe she did that because you did this.” Even if they’re right, it’s not necessarily what you want to hear when you’re upset. Steph is probably the ideal person to comfort you because she’ll empathize and react as if it happened to her too. She’s also very open about hugs and physical gestures of comfort. If she’s comforting someone over a loved one, she’s the type to stay with you all night and might start talking about other things or take you out into the city in order to distract you from the death. She’ll let someone grieve, but after a certain point, she knows when it’s time to get someone back up on their feet

Damian: Obviously Damian is not the best person to go to for comfort. He’ll probably do the opposite and leave you feeling worse than before. Damian is blunt, direct and upfront about what he thinks. If you come to him about a problem and he thinks you’re an idiot, he’ll tell you you’re an idiot. “Someone stole your money? You idiot. Why didn’t you do this…” He’s quick to point out your flaws and how you could have handled it better. If anything, Damian will make you feel more incompetent over a problem. If Damian is actually trying to be sensitive, he’d still probably call you an idiot, but he’d be less vocal about your flaws and how you made the situation worse. If Damian needs to comfort someone over a death, he’d have no clue what to do or say and would probably stay silent or remove himself from the situation.

Babs: Barbara would be sensitive yet logical, so she and Dick are similar in that regard. I feel like Babs is less intuitive on how to physically comfort people like Dick is, but she’d have other ways to make up for it. If Dinah comes to her upset about something, Babs would listen and offer some key phrases and advice to cheer Dinah up. Then once there’s not much left to be said, she’d offer some hot chocolate or other comfort food and then roll into the kitchen while changing the subject to something to lighten the other person up. Babs is the type to suggest they hit the gym to take out their frustrations on a punching bag and probably makes jokes while they do it. If she’s comforting someone over a loved one, I can see them laying their head on her lap or something while she runs her fingers through their hair.

Cass: Cass will listen and is curious about other people in general. She wouldn’t have much to say or know what advice to offer because of her lack of personal experience, but she would read someone’s body language and know how to read between the lines. I feel like Cass would feel a little awkward and underprepared in most situations, but she would excel in the sense that she can tell when someone is upset long before other people can. If she reads a situation in advance, she might approach that person and give brief vague advice, like, “Go to her,” to get across that she understands and has read both sides in order to know what that person should do. If she can’t think of any advice for them, she can place a hand on their shoulder to show that she knows. When comforting over a loved one’s loss, I feel like Cass would devoutly stay with that person for hours. Cass has an unbreakable sense of loyalty to people she cares about, and she would show it by staying near as long as she can without complaint.

Bruce: Bruce cares but is basically helpless when it comes to comforting people because physical and verbal gestures are out of his comfort zone. Since Bruce is a master detective and a master at reading body language and being observant, he’s probably always aware of when something is going on but simply doesn’t comment on it or doesn’t know what to do about it. Bruce is similar to Jason in that he’s a man of action and will try to solve the problem by doing something tangible. In most cases, he won’t let on that he helped because he doesn’t want to deal with the emotions that follow either. Bruce is similar to Tim in that he’ll invade someone’s privacy in order to help, only unlike Tim, he’s less likely to be discovered doing it unless it’s unavoidable. If the person is particularly close to him, Bruce will be more likely to place a comforting hand on their shoulder and offer a few brief words of advice or acknowledgement. In other cases, Bruce might notice a problem and bluntly comment on it whether they asked for it or not, especially if he feels like someone else’s problem is interfering with his work. If Bruce is comforting someone over a death, I imagine he’d just give them plenty of space because it’s what he would personally want. In rare instances, he’ll give them a hug, but this would only happen with very close people and it’d probably be short